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Breaking out your boundaries

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When was the last time you planned  something and you just gave up? Yes, you just gave up, you found an excuse and you pretended noting happened! Did you ever, honestly, asked yourself why, without searching the second excuse? Please, take your time now, try to remember, ask yourself why!

Maybe you want to: quit your job, quit smoking, go to gym, wake up early, change your life style, change your diet, start painting, follow an old dream, find a boyfriend or girlfriend, take dance lessons, sing in a band and so on. I know, only thinking about this makes you feel uncomfortable and gives you a strong reason to find the next excuse, but together we can find out the impediment and we can make a challenge of it.

The comfort zone

According to White: “the comfort zone is a behavioral state within which a person operates in an anxiety-neutral condition using a limited set of behaviors to deliver a steady level of performance, usually without a sense of risk.”

We are working in patterns, we tend to repeat what we habitually do, conforming to our past experiences. We all see the World with some “special glasses” designed by our personal background, as a result we get anxious and we tend to escape while we face a new situation. We create our mental boundaries and we are not even aware of this.

This is not something we choose. Our brain is designed like this, therefore we don’t need to think before we suppose to walk, speak, close the door and so on. It’s a good way of saving time, that’s how we get to learn something new and as consequence we act most of the time, in a robotic way.

If we plan to change our lives is not enough to think positive, we need to prepare ourselves to accept the anxiety. Every time we try to step outside the comfort zone we get anxiety as a bonus, we might even experience symptoms  of illness of the body, as a response to transition. People around us might have a different attitude toward us, because as a society we also tend to live our lives in patterns. If we experience this, it is a good sign, indicates that we are progressing, we are stepping out the comfort zone and we break our boundaries. We should also try to remember that we need time to adapt to new situations.

To make the change, first we need to establish a plan, to have a target and find a reward. Next, we just need to ignore all the thoughts and any type of excuses no matter how credible tend to be. The best we can do is to focus on the result, bit by bit we realize how easy is to make a change and we discover that the source of our fears was only in our thoughts. By changing something small we change our entire life and sometimes other lives too. To achieve something new we need to sacrifice the old, we need to pay this price and we all know that good results are the consequence of hard work. We can’t accomplish something by just dreaming and waiting things happen to us instead of making them happen!

Let’s take a piece of paper and a pen, let’s start building the future with a small idea. There is no rush, everything else can wait for half an hour. Just listen to your inner voice, the one that you sometimes hate because it reminds you who you could be. What’s whispering to you? Listen with attention and make a plan on the paper, write down what you are changing starting with tomorrow and what you can do to accomplish this. Start creating a happy future now, promise yourself that you will keep your word and remember to focus on the result!

I wish you happy changes!

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Author: Anna María

I'm just a normal person who enjoyes the life and I try to make a challenge of it every day. I love reading books, I love people around me, I like to study and to discover every day something new. I realized that you can be happy only when you accept that happiness comes from within, I've also learned to accept the life with all her gifts and all the ups and downs.

7 thoughts on “Breaking out your boundaries

  1. Interesting reading how to managed to open our minds to change the dreams for a reality even the small once. Fear is something which is really only in our heads. People have to wake up and realize that nobody else can change their life’s only them.
    Good article:)

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  2. Thank you, Gabriela! 🙂

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  3. I definitely agree that breaking out of our comfort zone is good – sometimes it can be a challenge to find the place between too much and not enough though!

    Thanks for visiting my blog, sounds like we have some aims and ideas in common!

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    • Ellen, you are right! It is important to find the balance between too much and not enough though.
      Also we need to keep trying, no matter how challenging might be! If we don’t expand our comfort zone, we can not progress. 🙂

      Thank you for visiting my blog! It was a pleasure visiting yours, I think you are doing a great job!
      We have a lot in common, especially the passion for reading! 🙂

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  4. You know Anna-Maria… lol – your positively affecting my world with your writing. Making me want to improve even more!! Thank you for that. Love your simple steps. Great organization of content…. geez. I’m humbled.

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    • I’m so happy for being helpful!
      We are not perfect, and this is great, but we have the gift of improving ourselves every day and it depends only on us and our will power!
      Thank you!

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